Love Across Time: Time Traveler’s Wife Dive In

Disclaimer: To begin things, I’ve posted this rewind a little later to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Why? Because I’m an overly cheesy romantic, and I’m all about timing. Even if it is a day late, I think we are all still feeling the love tonight. Also, there is most definitely spoilers below. Read at your own risk.

There’s something oddly familiar about reading an old book, and I don’t mean rediscovering longed to be re-read pages. It’s similar to the feeling of smelling a candle that brings back childhood memories. That’s how I feel every time I touch the spine and re-open “The Time Traveler’s Wife.”

I got chills reading the first chapter of “The Time Traveler’s Wife,” passages I have read 3 times before. I can only equate it to a feeling of being home. An “oh, there you’ve been” notion, that I’m not sure another book will ever be able to capture. I truly believe I’ve slightly given up on reading books because I don’t think they can capture this magic. That’s partly why I’ve turned to graphic novels because the art and fast pace is the closest I feel to it. This feeling, though, that’s what a favorite book is for, right?

The thing that always draws me into “The Time Traveler’s Wife” is the how deeply integral time travel is to the plot. I know, you are probably thinking, “no dip, Sherlock. It’s literally in the name.” It’s more than that, though. Based on the title alone, this seems like a novel dedicated to a man and a woman and their romance through time travel. Alternatively, it’s about a man named Henry de Tamble, who is burdened by this disease that causes him to time travel. As he ages, he learns that he tends to go to important times in his life, which is what always bring him back to Claire Abshire.

It’s more than love, though. Henry finds himself traveling to times where he interacts with himself, teaches his younger self how to push through and other figures who are important in his life. He discovers that he cannot interfere with time or change things no matter how much he wishes he could.

The other side of the story follows Claire and how she adjusts to loving a man who cannot always be there and finding herself and her style in everyday life. Between wanting a family and wanting to be a successful artist, Claire even struggles with understanding why her lot in life involves a man who travels across time. Yet, she doesn’t want it any other way.

The book divides the two stories by breaking them up into sections, with each character telling a certain part of their lives. As far as books go, it is one of the most realistic love stories, despite being held up with a science-fiction premise. It shows the inner struggles and triumphs of a relationship, family troubles and the value of friendships.

One of my most treasured moments in “The Time Traveler’s Wife” revolves around Claire and her mother’s death. Not only do we see and feel her inner turmoil, we watch as Henry tries to provide the support that Claire needs while also watching his wife crumble in this delicate time. Eventually, she finds a note from her mother and it is a small, tender moment that I think almost anyone can relate with.

Ultimately, the book revolves around these two beautifully flawed humans who find a tenderness in one another and grow together. They are two independent characters and they acknowledge the fact that their lives are more valuable spent together. There comes a time where Claire is on her own without Henry, but that never spells the end of their love story. Like some of my favorite romantic story lines, they built a life together and a love that transcends across time.




For the Love of the Game

The moment I heard about Kevin Durant leaving the Oklahoma City Thunder for the Golden State Warriors, everything was wrong for the rest of the morning. I claimed I had lost all respect for him, I tweeted good riddance. Did I mean any of these things? No. I did this because I was human, just like Kevin Durant is human.

Like many others out there, I want to be mad. My Kevin Durant, the one I welcomed into Oklahoma City in 2008, was not the same Kevin Durant that accepted the deal with the Warriors. That Kevin Durant has been hardened from injuries, not being able to return to the finals and constantly pressured into getting a ring. Wanting to be in the same league of LeBron James and Stephen Curry, the players who boasts both MVP titles and championships within their home courts. That changes a player, and each year I have watched become KD become more bitter and be more vocal about his complaints.

These are not things to blame or burden him with, Kevin Durant is constantly trying to evolve as a player and become the greatest player in the world, like Russell Westbrook and I think he is. That’s why he went to the Warriors. This is the next step for him to prove himself to critics and show he isn’t a slumping superstar. For those who criticize him and call him a bandwagoner, these are the same people that criticized LeBron about his move to Miami and praised him for his return.

The Difference? Durant always said he was not LeBron, he tweeted in 2009 that he wanted to stay in Oklahoma City all of his career. He was the Michael Jordan or Kobe Bryant of our generation, or that’s what we were led to believe. In the end, he’s was the LeBron James of a few years ago. The LeBron who I thought I understood, and then I was disappointed in. The LeBron every one hated and burned jerseys over, who people criticized and called a bandwagoner.

Neither of these men are bandwagoners, they went on this journey because basketball isn’t what it was a few years ago. It’s about super teams. Why have one good player when you can have five? This decision wasn’t about money, it was about a ring. The same reason LeBron left Cleveland to join forces with Dwyane Wade and Chris Bosh in Miami. It’s the reason everyone wants to ignore because it’s easy to complain and wish for the basketball style of the 1980s or 1990s.

Does this mean Kevin Durant could come back? I hope so, but I don’t want to get my hopes up and place faith in a hollow place. Although I heard the reports of Jerry West whispering sweet nothings in Durant’s ear, I also heard the “close insider” talks about how Durant would return. I didn’t think he would leave Westbrook, the dynamic duo who was awarded KIA’s December MVP together because when in sync they are unstoppable. I believed the trading of Ibaka, the one that hurt because it was another member of the unstoppable 2010 team, would show Durant that we were growing and becoming stronger. There were many factors that I thought would lure Kevin Durant back for one more year, but the odds were always stacked against us.

Alas, the Thunder could never deliver him a ring as fast as the Warriors could. Truthfully, I’m not even sure they can get a ring this year, but I know a part of me doesn’t want them to. That’s partly my bitterness over the situation, but I don’t think they will be the team everyone wants them to be. One slip and it won’t be Steph Curry or Klay Thompson or Draymond Green’s fault, it will fall on the heavy shoulders of Durant. He’s walking a fine line between basketball hero and villain, when the truth is he’s just playing for the love of the game.

While Oklahoma is no longer my home, there are things you hold dear. The Oklahoma City Thunder was one of them. While I and Thunder fans held Durant up with pillars on one side, Westbrook and the team held him up on the other. Durant is going to test the waters and see if this is truly the evolution he envisioned for himself, but I think it will fall short. Not because the Warriors aren’t talented and won’t be able to deliver another crazy season, but because it’s not the home or the crowd that has followed him and loved him for eight years. I cannot follow Durant to Golden State, but I hope he finds what he wanted there. I’ll keep my Durant jersey folded away for now, but I’ll be excited when this NBA season is over and we are in the summer of possibilities.

No matter how much hurt I carry around, a part of me will always view Kevin Durant as my favorite player and the best in the world. I’ll long for the days of a Durant and Westbrook team up, miss the little things they did with one another on the court and enjoy it a little too much if Westbrook can lead the Thunder to beat Durant with the Warriors. For now, it is a bitter goodbye and a message for the next year: Come home, KD. Oklahoma City is the home you need, and the Thunder is the team you deserve.

Why I’m Supporting Bernie Sanders

Before we get started, let’s get some preconceived notions out of the way: Yes, I am a young millennial, a recent college graduate and a female. Unfortunately, this formulaic assumption leads to comments like, “Of course you support Bernie, you naive little thing.” But like most millennials, I grew up in a broken system.

This broken system was lead by the Clinton and the Bush family. We grew up watching the system fail before us, 9/11, the housing market crash, bailouts galore and now we are going through one of the biggest racial divides our country has ever seen. Even seeing all of this, we aren’t negative, we’re distrustful. Maybe I am being presumptuous and speaking for a generation who doesn’t feel the way I do, but look at the support gathered around Bernie Sanders.

If you are younger than 55, you tend to lend your helping hand to Bernie Sanders, a self proclaimed democratic socialist who wants to fix a broken system. Based on that alone, we are drawn to his idealistic ways, even though we were skeptical when he first announced his candidacy. Then how did he attract the younger crowds, you might ask? His record, his history, his approval rating in the senate. Unlike many politicians, he isn’t afraid to go out of his way to voice an unpopular opinion because the thing is, it isn’t so unpopular.

Our drive is for a candidate who is open and cares about our voice, the voice of the working class. Take a peak into how politics is being ran right now, the voice of the public rarely turns out real results. And now comes along a senator who stands up to “Big Brother,” and we flock to him. It’s the same reason Republicans are drawn to Trump. The system is rigged, and we want someone who we feel can change it. The only difference between the two lies between “telling it like it is,” and someone who actually listens to the people and wants to make a difference.

Sanders is leading a political revolution, he is funded by the people and has voiced his distrust of the establishment. The same distrust I mentioned earlier, the one that strikes a chord with millennials and turns them against main stream media. We want the American Dream in the sense that we want a government that provides equality for all and cares about the betterment of society and its people. It makes sense why younger generations are attracted to someone who is anti-establishment because we want to restart and build something better, like FDR with the great depression.

And that’s really the meaning of democratic socialism, right? Providing people with the opportunity to succeed without capitalism getting in the way. Big money shouldn’t be in our politics, our medical care or our schools. The graduating class of 2015, my graduating class, will graduate from college with more debt than ever before. We are being set up to fail before we even get into the business world, so Sanders’ message of cutting the bullshit resonates with a lot of us. It is resonating so well, that even Hillary Clinton has started adapting his stump speeches into her own. And this is not to bash HRC, but to show that she recognizes the power Bernie has tapped into.

Millennials biggest concern with Hillary is her indecisive nature. Six months ago, Hillary wasn’t running the campaign she is today. I’ve always struggled with the Clintons’ simply because I remember them growing up, I remember her campaign in 2008 and how she has a very fear heavy tactic of deeming the GOP as our biggest enemy, and clinging to people like Obama and Henry Kissinger. It makes me afraid that she cannot work across the aisle and won’t be able to pass through a lot of the ideas that she is now promising. It makes me afraid that she will say what people like to hear to get elected, but not follow through when it comes time.

To quote The Dark Knight (2008), Bernie Sanders is the hero America deserves, but he is also the hero America needs right now. For those put off by his plans to uproot the political system, research his policies, look through his history and how he has always championed social issues. Maybe this is a “rose-tinted glasses” view of the Sanders’ campaign, but it fits the candidate I choose to support and the idea of what I want the country to become.



Top 10 Comic Book Romances

To celebrate the holiday of love and the release of Deadpool, I’m serenading all of you by compiling a list of the best superhero romances through out comic book history. Okay, maybe that is a bit dramatic, but these are my favorite romances. Fair warning, they are a little heavy on the DC Comics side, but I can’t help what compels my heart.

10. Superman (Clark Kent) and Lois Lane


Beginning this list with one of the most iconic comic book couples only feels right. When you think of superhero relationships, Superman and Lois Lane are probably one of the first to come to your mind. While I am not a Superman fan, there is something about their relationship that draws you in. Perhaps it has something to do with its everlasting power. While they aren’t always together there is a part of Clark Kent that will always hold out for Lois Lane.

9. Gambit (Remy Etienne LeBeau) and Rogue (Anna Marie)


Rogue will forever be my favorite part of X-Men, and Gambit is your lovable southern mutant. Together they are a force to be reckoned with, but there is always something that will hold them apart. Rogue’s powers cause her to absorb the powers, life and even memories of any one who touches her. This causes a greater tension than “will they or won’t they?”

8. Wolverine (James “Logan” Howlett) and Storm (Ororo Munroe)


I know many people prefer Wolverine with with Jean Grey, but I like to group Jean Grey and Cyclops (Scott Summers) and I love Wolverine with Storm. These two have a strong foundation of friendship and it blossomed into one of the better relationships within the Marvel universe. With all the alternative timelines inside the X-Men universe, at least I can pretend they are happy and married somewhere.

7. Raven and Beast Boy (Garfield Logan)


I grew up with Teen Titans as a little kid, and then when I matured and got into comics I still found an attachment to Teen Titans. More specifically I found myself still compelled by the relationship between Raven and Beast Boy. Sure, there is Terra and Jericho that complicates the relationship between these two, but like the above characters on this list there is just a special connection between these two. While Teen Titans seems to come and go, these two seem to stick around forever.

6. Batwoman (Kate Kane) and Renee Montoya


Kate Kane and Renee Montoya have a complicated history, but it is also one of the most progressive relationships in modern day comics. Through out Batwoman’s storylines, Kate Kane is still not getting the justice she deserve in DC Comic’s New 52. While Renee may not be the best fit for Kate, their relationship symbolized a new wave of comics and hopefully we will start to see more LGBT relationships blossom throughout the different superhero comics.

5. Poison Ivy (Dr. Pamela Isley) and Harley Quinn (Dr. Harleen Quinzel)


To Preface this, Harley Quinn‘s relationship with the Joker has always bothered me. While many people still cling to that relationship, I have always preferred her friendship with Poison Ivy because it was an escape away from the abusive nature of the Joker. With the New 52, we have gotten to see Harley break away and become her own villain, and even more so we got to see the relationship with Ivy blossom into something more. I also do not think DC Comics is perfect, their handling of the Batwoman comics was poorly done, but I think they are starting to make strides and their comics. Making a relationship many people loved as cannon definitely speak volumes to me.

4. Batman (Bruce Wayne) and Catwoman (Selina Kyle)


This was the first relationship I was really introduced to with my comic book adventures. Batman was my first love; I own every movie, watched every cartoon and have done my best to read whatever I can get my hands on. Furthermore, his relationship with Catwoman was electric. She was the yin to his yang, in the sense that she walked the fine line between good and evil. Batman, for his part, mostly brought out the best in Catwoman. Together, they kind of defined each others moral code. Kind of like Superman and Lois Lane, you can’t think of iconic couple without thinking of Batman and Catwoman.

3. Jessica Jones and Luke Cage


They aren’t a perfect couple, but there is just something special they share. Through each chapters of their lives, they always find a way back to each other. Thankfully, Netflix and Marvel has done a great job of bringing this relationship to  life and showing its imperfections, as well as its perfections. I feel like I am simplifying their relationship, but it just feels very real minus the super powers. We even feel the journey between Luke Cage and Jessica Jones as they explore the world of parenthood and how they fit that into their “jobs” and everyday life. So maybe this couple truly celebrates the hero in all of us.

2. Peter Parker (Spider-Man) and Gwen Stacy (Spider-Gwen)


Gwen Stacy will always be the true love of Spider-Man, in my heart. Yes, there is Mary Jane, the girl who loved Spider-Man, but isn’t Peter Parker more than a costume? While the Amazing Spider-Man films suffered from a lack luster script, Andrew Garfield and Emma Stone really captured the essence and chemistry that I felt reading pages shared between Gwen and Peter. Thankfully, Marvel has resurrected Gwen Stacy and created Spider-Gwen. And yes, I relish in joy with the interactions between Spider-Man and Spider-Gwen. While the two can’t be together in their respective universes, maybe they can find love within the Spider-Verse.

1. Barbara Gordon (Batgirl) and Dick Grayson (Nightwing/Robin)


And the couple to top the list is Batgirl and Nightwing. They grew up together, had flirtatious fights with stolen glances. They matured together and broke away from the bat that helped them so they could create good on their own. No matter what though, they always come back to one another. While they are good in their respective areas, they’re perfect together. They don’t have to hide who they are between each other, and they know each other better than anyone else could. Barbara Gordon and Dick Grayson are perfect together, whether they want to admit it (or succumb) to it or not.



Top 10 Most Romantic Television Scenes

Valentine’s Day is a day dedicated to passion and happiness. You get to spend the day with those you love the most, showing each other grand gestures of romance. More than anything, it is a day to celebrate love. In honor of Valentine’s Day, I complied a list of some of my all times favorite romantic scenes from television. While I couldn’t get everything I wanted in there, here are my top ten favorite scenes. (If you are not caught up on these shows, spoilers below)

Gossip Girl: 1×18 “Much ‘I Do’ About Nothing”


A lot of people wouldn’t see this picture and think of a happy scene, but it is the one scene that stuck with me during Gossip Girl’s run. I was a Serena (Blake Lively) and Dan (Penn Badgley) shipper from the first episode, but it was their break-up scene that captivated me. I had Death Cab for Cutie’s “Ice is Getting Thinner” on repeat for days and I watched this episode every chance I got. Dan may have chosen to leave Serena, but in this moment it was just the two of them as the world slowly disappeared around them. Norman Buckley is a very talented director, and this will forever be one of my favorite episodes he has ever directed.

Roswell: 2×05 “The End of the World”


While it is hard to pick a single scene for this episode, I am still not over the ending. Through out the episode, Max (Jason Behr) is trying to win Liz’s heart (Shiri Appleby), but she has to deny him and get him to fall out of love with her to save the world. Dramatic? Sure, but I loved every second of it. Back to the final scene, Liz succeeded in pushing Max into another girl’s arms *her name will never be mentioned here*. As she sits heartbroken, wondering if she did the right thing, she asks Future Max for a dance. As the music plays softly, we see Liz and future Max share a dance before he disappears and the future is rewritten.

Lost: 4×05 “The Constant”

This scene is for my husband. He went through a lost marathon after it had ended, and he made sure I watched every Desmond (Henry Ian Cusick) and Penny (Sonya Walger) scene with him, this one being his favorite. When I told him I was compiling this list, this was the one of his two suggestions. It is one of the most beautifully scripted episodes I have ever watched, so there wasn’t much of a fight when he asked for it to be on the list. No matter how complicated love can be, if you truly believe you will always find a way.

Scandal: 2×20 “A Woman Scorned”

Oh, Olivia and Fitz. Every episode had been leading to this moment, the moment where we finally see Fitz (Tony Goldwyn) choose Olivia (Kerry Washington) and it was everything I wanted and more. Plus, I am a sucker for some MoTown, so hearing “You’re All I Need to Get By” by Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell was all I truly needed. Tony Goldwyn directed the episode, and I think he was able to capture Olivia and Fitz like no one else could/can. Now, it is just waiting game until Vermont.

Vampire Diaries: 5×22 “Home”

I always venture in and out of Vampire Diaries during its season run, but I will never miss a finale. This scene alone is every reason why I won’t. I never fully committed to be a Damon (Ian Somerhalder) and Elena (Nina Dobrev) shipper, and at times I still fancied Elena and Stefan (Paul Wesley), but after this episode everything changed. I felt like this scene perfectly captured the sudden shock of lost and the abundance of love all in one scene.

Fringe: 4×15 “A Short Story About Love”

I didn’t watch Fringe on television, but after completing the series on Netflix I wish I had. The writers behind this show perfectly blended science fiction with love (between family and romantic interests), but my favorite thing was how they were always able to bring everything together. While I won’t go into specific, this reunion between Olivia (Anna Torv) and Peter (Joshua Jackson) will be always be one of the strongest cases for love can conquer all.

Chuck: 3×14 “Chuck Versus the Honeymooners”

I wasn’t expecting to love Chuck as much as I did, and while I wasn’t always happy with how the storylines went, I have no complaints about this episodes. There isn’t a grand romantic gesture, it is simply a shared moment between Chuck (Zachary Levi) and Sarah (Yvonne Strahovski) at the beginning of their relationship. For me, this is truly what is like being with someone you care about it, it is about the little moments.

Office: 5×15 “Stress Relief: Part 2”


Soulmates seems to be an idea that is mocked nowadays, but The Office captured it perfectly with Pam (Jenna Fischer) and Jim’s (John Krasinski) relationship. It is told through the little details, and sometimes it is what pushes people to see when something isn’t there. This is what happens with Pam’s parents after Jim talks to her dad about the way he feels about Pam. While there is no simple way of putting it, Pam says it best towards the end of the episode: “When you’re a kid, you assume you’re parents are soulmates. My kids are going to be right about that.”

Pretty Little Liars: 2×16 “Let the Water Hold Me Down”

This is the only scene on this whole list where the two love interests do not directly interact with each other, but I think the context says it all. The relationship between Aria Montgomery (Lucy Hale) and Ezra Fitz (Ian Harding) will always be a point of conflict for people, but I think it is another case of soulmates. No matter what was thrown at them, they always found a way back together. While in recent seasons the writers sacrificed their love story for ratings (unsuccessfully, I might add), I will always cherish the love they shared in season 2.

Parks and Recreation: 4×08 “The World’s Smallest Park”


The Kiss that truly started the relationship between Ben Wyatt (Adam Scott) and Leslie Knope (Amy Poehler). While they share many moments together that I cherish, there will always be something about this scene. Maybe it is because my husband and I have watched it about a thousand times (give or take a few), or maybe because there is no other couple that will capture our relationship like Leslie and Ben do. The quirkiness, the intensity, the passion, the happiness; it is all the little things about love bottled into one.

Golden Globes Best Dressed

Or as Tina Fey and Amy Poehler like to call it, “What are they going to do fire us?” While I feel like this year’s show and fashion choices have been a little disappointing, these are the people who shined through.

True Detective Season 2 Dream Casting

Alright, alright, alright. As season one of  True Detective drew to a close, every one wondered who the hit HBO Police Detective Anthology Series would cast as their season 2 detectives. While some have been serious (Can we just have Matthew McConaughey and Woody Harrelson back?), some have been more comical (Meryl Streep and Meryl Streep anyone?). My list features a mixture of both, but isn’t that they fun of it all?

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